A sex positive practice
Sex positive means starting from the assumption that there is no single right way to feel desire, build a relationship, or express yourself. It means your questions about sex are treated as ordinary rather than shameful. You may want to understand a drop in desire, say something aloud for the first time, or make peace with a part of your history. We can move at a pace that feels manageable, and you decide how much detail is useful.
Shame usually arrives long before therapy does. It can come from family, religion, culture, or a medical system that made you feel like a problem to fix. We can look at where those messages came from and how much of them you actually want to keep. This work is not about becoming someone else. It is about making room for honesty with yourself and the people you are close to.
For LGBTQIA+ people
You should not have to explain your life to your therapist. I work with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, asexual, intersex, and nonbinary people, and with families finding their way. We can talk about coming out at any age, being out at work, chosen family, and what it costs to be visible or to stay quiet.
Living in a world that still treats difference as unusual takes a toll that is easy to underestimate. That weariness can show up as constant alertness, a harsh inner critic, difficulty trusting intimacy, or grief for support you did not receive. Naming it as a real weight, rather than a personal weakness, often brings relief. If you are exploring your gender or sexuality, you set the pace and the vocabulary. You do not need to arrive with certainty, a label, or a plan.
Desire, intimacy, and communication
Differences in desire are common and rarely mean a relationship is failing. What usually makes them painful is the story attached: that you are too much, not enough, or responsible for fixing your partner's feelings. We can slow that down and look at what each of you actually needs, drawing on Nonviolent Communication to raise hard topics with less blame.
For couples, we can explore how to rebuild closeness, talk about sex without it turning into a verdict, and understand how your bodies respond to stress. For individuals, we can look at how your history, health, or past relationships shape what feels possible now. Neither partner owes the other anything, and I will not treat a no as a problem to be solved.
Where we might go
Our goals might include feeling less anxious about sex or identity, speaking more honestly with a partner, setting boundaries with family, or simply becoming less ashamed of who you already are. We may use Internal Family Systems to hear the parts of you that protect, want, and worry, alongside relational and attachment-based work to understand how you seek closeness.
Sessions are held by secure video, so you can be somewhere you feel safe. A free consultation gives us room to talk about what you are looking for and whether working together feels like a good fit. If you are in an unsafe situation, immediate safety comes first and I can help you think through what else you might need.
You do not have to shrink yourself to be close to someone.